Pseudo-Relationship: What is it?

At first, I’m a bit curious on what is really the essence of being in a pseudo relationship until I’m on that stage. Pseudo relationship is the “Parang kami pero hindi” relationship. It’s a kind of relationship wherein you you hang out together, you exchange sweet nothings, you email,chat,text to each other often, and even sex! BUT there is no commitment, NO attachment. The risky part of this relationship is that, when you fall for a guy/girl. You don’t have a security that he/she’s all yours and you don’t even know if that person also feel the same way. Jealousy comes next if you already have feelings for that certain person. Before you enter into this kind of relationship, be sure of the consequences. Are you sure you can avoid not to fall for that guy/girl? How sure are you? Do you even think of getting hurt? Well, I’ve been into that crappy relationship and it really sucks! Sa umpisa lang ang masaya, sa umpisa lang din ang feeling na mahal ka niya. Being on this kind of situation, make sure, you’re ready to play the game. Try not to be the LOSER. ;)

88 thoughts on “Pseudo-Relationship: What is it?

  1. HI Miss sunshine! Good Day! I agreed sa mga sinabi mo about pseudo-relationship no strings attach… no commitment…and dont expect sa inaasahan mong mangyari…=) Im In relationship right now its hard pero dapat kayanin! Youre right parang kami pero hindi, She has a Boyfriend in Dubai, we’ve met in our Class in Microsoft classmate ko sya May 2006-March 2007 sa Makati isang review center. At the end of our class reviews dun na nagstart, at first we txt lang kumustahan then we date, and then dun na nagstart yung feeling and we go deeeply na sa relationship, Kulang na lang sagot nya talagang kami nah…but im always keep her asking na kung may feelings sya sa akin and she loves me ba?… she replies nothing… at ang big question pa din sa akin is why we always meet? ang sarap nga pag ganitong set up pero hanngang kailan? tama ka walang kasigurahan and di mo alam kung kailang matatapos baka nga mamaya wala na diba?… but one thing ive learned in this relationship you can! be a player, pero if you want her/him paglaban mo kung love mo talaga sya…=) i do love her but i dont know if she loves me the same way… i think we end as a googd friend no regrets about the past kaysa wala di ba?…=) thanks! Have a nice day…=)

  2. Hello ghil, well I guess ayos lang din yan basta ba masaya ka kasama sya. Ang problema lang dun is, wala kayong commitment, pero ayos na din kasi she’s been part of your good memories na rin. Thanks for the reply on this post ghil. Apir! :)

  3. hi,

    yah tama ka, pero hanggang kailan di ba? yun yun big question…but enjoy every moment na magkasam kau di ba?…
    anyway na view ko friendster mo sino ka dun?…=) take care and god bless…!

  4. “ahm… madali mainluv noh?? but ndi tau sure f un guy na ba un pAra satin.. sarap ng filing na hindi kayo pro parang kau.. coz sweet sya sau and nagcacare sya sau..
    actaully, nangyari na sa kin yan.. i know na my gf sya pero malau sila sa 1′t-isa non.. naging close kami but ndi namin ineexpect na maiinluv kami sa 1′t-1.. naging kami kahit may gf siya.. mahal ko kasi eh… pro sa di inaasahan dumating un gf niya, aun sobrang nahurt ako.. pro di ako nagpakitang nasasaktan.. naging close din kami ng gf niya.. ok naman lahat kami.. martyr na nga tawag sakin ng mga friends ko eh.. but it’s ok.. nagmahal ka lang eh.. pro ryt now di parin mkamuvon un x ko kasi ako talaga un mahal nya..hirap noh??

  5. Hi ghil? gud day!
    tama ka! masarap magmahal pero magmahal ng wala kasiguruhan mahirap yun!! cguro yun na ang pinakamahirap na turtor sa puso mo. like me kaka break lang namn ng gf ko my serious relation, kaya nag hanap nag paraan para mka move on… sa umpisa txt2 lang kwentohan. dn hindi ko na namalayan unti2x na pala na huhulog ang loob ko sa kanya.. parang kami pro hindi alam ko na i have fellngs for her but hindi ko alam kng ganon din xa sa akin, i use 2 play this game cause sometime na im feel im so special kahit madalas nya binabanggit name nag bf nya.. masakit nga ehh!! tama ka hanggang kailan ako mag papaka martyr.. hahahaizt.. ang hirap talaga.. alam ko kng ano ang pinasok ko kng ano ang kahihinatnan nito, sa umpisa akala kaya ko mag laro but hirap pala pag pangalan na nya sinisigaw ng puso mo.. hahaizt! buhay!

    • Hi,

      Thanks sa pag post ng comment sa post ko na to. Sa ganung sitwasyon, mahirap talaga. Mahirap mag predict, lalo na kung mali yung akala mo. Feeling mo may something, pero di natin alam kung sa kanya ganun din. =)

    • buhay kO dn yan ngayOn..!!hehe grabe ang hirAp nuh..!! ang sarap abihin na sana “tayO naLang” para wala ng guLo..!! dn everytime na mAg kasama kayO parang owkie na ang lahat,,!! ma papawi lahat ng pagOd at LungkOt muh.. hehe..perO ang lahat ng yun aiy may mga masakit na kahihinatnan..like pag cLa na ang mag kasama ng Bf/gF nia..!! weEew sakit nuh..!! pArang gusto mung bugbOgin or sabunOtan yung guy or yung gf nia,,!! atAkzzz :’|

  6. Um,hi xenyo lhat.. Nbsa q mga post nyo.. Tma kau lhat,pero nsa umpisa plng kz ng ka pSeudo rel. Ko.. Msya kme,, ngcmula lng to nun nbro q xang lgwan, den pbiro nya dn aqng cng0t.. Cmula nun,kame na kh8 d seryoso..Mgkaibgan kme,at dat tym kz may pR0blema xa aBt s relax0n nya s isang tao, i admit,tnuTulungan q lng xa.. HngGang ngaun,cguro 6 m0s.N kme, iniiwasan qng mainluv s knya. Ngaun, 2wing m0nthsary lng kme sweet.Kz ayaw nMen mlman ng mga kakLase nMen,bka mgKhyaAn lng kme.. Bsta s srili nMen,ok kme.

  7. Hello everyone… I was recently in a pseudo relationship… sad to say I played the role of the loser… even before I went into that relationship I am already in love with him. I’d like to believe that somehow he have feelings for me, cause we’ve been going out and making out for 4 years..hindi pa rin pala guarantee ang years para mag assume na may feelings na xa for me…saddest part is we end up just because of a question.His driver told me ksi na hinahatid nila ung isang staff nya.. and that made me ask if he likes her…wala nmn xa kinonfirm about whats going on between them, he just told me that I’m making things complicated and it’ll be btr if we will just be normal friends…

    He is the only person made me happy without doing or giving me anything special and I made myself believe na he has the same feelings for me..but it doesn’t work that way. Malamang nga ako lang ang nagpakafaithful for not entertaining other guys. I always tell him na xa ang option ko kahit hanggang option lang ako sa kanya… for 4 years option lang ako.

    Until now, I’m having a hard time moving on, I’m still pretending na kaya ko, sometimes I still blame myself for asking him that question, sana di ko xa nawala… I loved him with all my heart kahit na option lang ako…

    • Hi,

      It’s really really hard to accept if things went wrong especially if we’re assuming na someday there’ll be relationship/commitment. I’ve been to this kind of status kaya I understand how you it feels to be the “option”. Sobrang masakit if alam mo may mahal sya and he’s committed to somebody else, pero kelangan din natin isipin bilang mga babae na kelangan din natin ng someone na magmamahal at willing makipag commit satin.

      For my experience, after ko humiwalay sa ka pseudo ko. I found a guy who’s worth a million compare to my past pseudo guy. Sa umpisa lang kasi ang feeling na masaya ka kapag kasama mo sya na parang walang pakialam kung meron mas importante sa kanya. Pero, kapag tumagal tayong mga babae din ang mag sa suffer lalo na kung naibigay ang lahat. Pero, kapag kumawala ka sa ganung sitwasyon sa una lang din ang masakit at malungkot. Well, sakin ilang months din bago ko na realize ang kagagahan ko. Now, I’m so so happy with my new relationship. :)

      • wow.. its good hear that :)) i hope ako rin magawa yan ,, kaso for now im happy with him,, i know someday na mkakita rin ako ng higit pa xa kanya,,tulad mu :D

  8. Hello everyone… I was recently in a pseudo relationship… sad to say I played the role of the loser… even before I went into that relationship I am already in love with him. I’d like to believe that somehow he have feelings for me, cause we’ve been going out and making out for 4 years..hindi pa rin pala guarantee ang years para mag assume na may feelings na xa for me…saddest part is we end up just because of a question.His driver told me ksi na hinahatid nila ung isang staff nya.. and that made me ask if he likes her…wala nmn xa kinonfirm about whats going on between them, he just told me that I’m making things complicated and it’ll be btr if we will just be normal friends…

    He is the only person made me happy without doing or giving me anything special and I made myself believe na he has the same feelings for me..but it doesn’t work that way. Malamang nga ako lang ang nagpakafaithful for not entertaining other guys. I always tell him na xa ang choice ko kahit hanggang option lang ako sa kanya… for 4 years option lang ako.

    Until now, I’m having a hard time moving on, I’m still pretending na kaya ko, sometimes I still blame myself for asking him that question, sana di ko xa nawala… I loved him with all my heart kahit na option lang ako…

  9. hi… gurl… i’ve been in that kind of relationship right now “pseudo-relationship” it’s too hard for me… it’s more than a complicated love relationship… coz u really cant express everything what you feel… but one thing for sure that i really try my best not to be the losser… it must be “he” is the losser…

    • Hi Christine,

      Well he must be. Being in that kind of relationship is not good. I tell you I’ve been on that stage and it’s really really hard. There’s lot of men out there gurl. Remember girls deserve a guy who can commit on a relationship.

      • aw.. magiging loser ata ako.. nakakahiya nmn 2 lalaki aq.. snv q n s knya na may cmmitmnt na aq sa knya.. nu bng nagawa ko? sinv q png hndi aq mssktan.. aun 2loy sa kanya na aq pero xa hndi sa akin.. pero ok lng mahal ko eh.. khit may gusto xang iba gnwa q un.. d dw xa cgurado kung mhal nia un eh kc sa txt lng nia nakakausap.. d nmn nia snsv na gsto dn nia aq.. pero.. gus2 nia aqng ksama.. bsta sv q s knya ibreak n nia aq kpg naconfirm n nia na mhal na nia ung guy na un.. hay.. loser nga ata ang kalalabasan q..

  10. hmm.. just want to share.. im in pseudo relationship din before. yes, it’s before, but now im totally happy becuase we end up together. c: as what the all story goes, asusual my iba xang gusto dat tym, my iba xang sinusundo at hinahatid after school hours. and sobrang skit sa part q un, ksi we are in the same group of frends, everyone knows about the gurl na hinahatid niya,so always syang inaasar about dun sa gurl, indi nila alam yung smen, xempwe din kasi indi nmen un sinasabi na we almost txt each other evry night, yes every night pagka hatid niya sa gurl..sobrang skit nun kasi at the middle of the tym ma alam ko na mgksama cla, di q maiwasang masaktan and thinking kung anu ba mga gngwa nila together, im in pain for that said semester but still di q xa mgwang iwanan. everytime na he needs me, im always there. i always makes my time availble for him, gnun din aman xa kpag nga lang wala sa eksena ung gurl, kpg di cla mgkatxtx, kmi muna, like others, plitan din ng mga sweet nothings and other stuff..kiligan moments na parang kami.. peo in just one glimpse bgla q nlang maiisip na. “ai oo nga pla di nga pla kmi..” as time goes by, im always in pain because of him, lgeh q naiisip na bka sooner mrerealize din nia na mas dpat kmi kesa sila, because im the one who fill lahat ng pagkukulang nung gurl na nliligawan nia.. until the time na npagod na qh and decided to stop na khit mahirap.. mdaming beses q ndin un cnbi peo dat tym lan tlgah q nconvince na i shud leave him na.. im so pathetic na lalo na kpg pinagpatuloy q pdin un, i also said that i dont deserve to be an option but the only choice,,, so gnwa q but for the last time i confess to him my feelings, lhat ng pinagdaanan qng pain nung im wid him, but i only did this sa letter, kasi d q kya sbihin ng personal lalo na were in the same group of tropa nga diba? aun. but before i did that i told him to keep away from me peo d q cnbi kung bkit, bsta sinabi qh lan wag na nia q itxt, just pretend na di kmi lose and more appropriate na just pretend na di kmi mgkakilala.. he did it, but after two days sbi nia di pla nia kaya.. pinalayo qh xa sken kasi kung aqoh ung gagawa, for sure d q un mgagawa.. so when i decided to settle this things na, i gave him a gift and leave it to his room in their house because we had an overnyt in their house.. but nalasing aqoh at naibigay qh pla ng maaga aga ung gift and at that time comes, he confess dat he is falling inlove ndin sken.. mtgal na daw niang tnigilan ung gurl sa paghatid at pagsundo at lalo qh daw un pnarealize nung cnbihan qh xang lumayo sken.. so the ending was happy, were 5mos na, goin strong!! so im proud to say dat i survive this pseudo relationship.. as of now were enjoying the company of each other and its good to say na our family and frends were very happy for us.. i hope somehow mging inspirayson to,but im not sayin na u shud patronize the pseudo relationship, kasi kung ako lan din msusunod.. its better to enjoy a relationship with an assurance kesa dun sa di mo alam kung san ka lulugar sa kanya..

    tnx for reading!! :)

  11. share lng po! mssbi kong i’m in a pseudo relationship ryt now.. oo mhrap dhl wlang assurance pro masaya!mgkwork kme ngng close dhl s biruan until prang ngng 22hnan n un bruan dhl s mttmis nyang mga slita..aftr ng wok mgksma kmeng 2mtmbay hnngang ngng swit s 1t-isa den nlman kong mae aswa xia inwsan q xia pro ngng mkulit xia dq npglan srili q n lalo xang mhlin dhl s e4t n gngwa nya..always happy pg ksma xia den he ask me ng ksasal..i sed yes pero mae doubt p dn.. super hrap ng gn2ng rlasyon..prang mxdong mkslanan..

    • Hello Emhy.. If I were you, I’ll find the right person..yung “the one”.. Kasi kung married nya sya mahirap yun. You might ruin a family.. If the person doesn’t really love his family then you wait for the separation para legal. Mahirap talaga yung ganung sitwasyon kasi mahal mo yung tao but then the person also have his own family na.. Be realistic ;)

  12. ..ako din po nasa pseudo-relationship, mhirap maging pngalwa lng, may boyfriend syang matagal na sila, 1st bf nya yun, siguro 4 years na sila or matagal pa dun..hindi ko nmn talaga balak ligawan sya, kahit na gustong gusto ko talaga sya, iniiwasan ko nga na maging malapit sa kanya dahil alam ko na may bf na sya, pero sadyang pinaglaruan ako ng pagkakataon, naging partner kami sa isang activity, at syempre hindi mo maiiwasang hindi maging enthuastic kasi masaya ka, dahil kasama mo sya.. ayun naging friends kami, at naging malapit ako sa family nya..sa hindi ko inaasahang pangyayari ay nagtapat ako sa kanya, nagulat lang ako sa sagot nya na mahal din nya ako..pero sabi nya hindi sya handa na malaman ng family nya na kami..hindi nya kayang iwan yung bf nya, masaya ako kpag ksama ko sya, pero sadyang mahirap dahil hindi pwede sa public ang holding hands, etc.., nahihirapan ako, pero nababaka sakali din na ako ang piliin nya..sa ngayon hindi ko alam kung ano ang dapat kong gawin..mas lalo lang akong nahuhulog sa kanya habang tumatagal..

    • Hi Rhoar, salamat sa pagdaan sa blog ko.. sa sitwasyong ganyan.. mapapayo ko lang piliin mo kung alin ang tamang gawin. Kasi walang kasiguraduhan. You can’t force her to choose kasi mahirap naman talaga yun. At baka pinili nya pa si boyfie nya mas lalo lang masakit. Pero it’s still up to you.. Basta ma advise ko lang.. do the RIGHT thing ;)

  13. hi, i can relate.. OMg. hahah! sa umpisa lng masaya.. 22o yan! sa umpisa m lng maeenjoy ang lht.. but, as the day goes by, u realized na ohhh… ohhh… itz kinda difficult na. in a way na, parang ngging cold n xa. but the hard thang is………. u can’t demand, coz….. u are just hanging up w/ him. ryt?? HND KA NYA GF, HND M XA BF. AT LALONG HND KAU. dats too very unfair.huhuhuh!!! dmting dn un time n nag aassume ka n. ngeexpect ka na. ryt?? but for me, as my frnds always tell me, just go w/ the flow. dnt’ fall for him, coz if u do…. my gaws, talo ka. ok lngmag date kau, chat,text, pro hanggang dun lng! be hapee for dat. okay??? msaya nmn e.. pra ka lng tlg my bf n TOTOO.. =) ngpapasmile sau. tama?tnx.

  14. very well said… there so many pseudo relationship now.. i think this relationship is the best way to keep in touch and to avoid expectations! just follow what your hearts beating! ;)

  15. …hello miss sunshine!!!!! I think, it does not really happen(“sa umpisa lang ang feeling na masaya,sa umpisa lang feeling na mahal ka niya”) if the both of you are true in regards of your feelings towards each other….Siguro gagawin lang ng isang guy ‘yan if he don’t really any nice feeling for a certain girl… Pero ewan lang, kasi hindi ko pa naman naranasang masaktan…but as of now, I have that kind of relationship…and I feel how much he love me..that he’s willing to give everything just for me!!!! That’s why Im not in favor in regards of your vision in the so-called “pseudo relationship”…..:)

    • Hi Cherry Mae,

      If you’re not agree with my post, well that’s your opinion and I respect that. But as for me, that’s my perception and everybody else who leave their comment. I understand that we have different insights when it comes to relationship. But as per my experience (unluckily) we both failed to work it out kasi may gf sya for 3 years I knew he loved me pero he can’t break up with his gf that time. And as for your experience, I don’t know if he’s in a relationship also or wala pero lucky ka nagkatuluyan kayo. Good luck to both of you

  16. huhuhu…how sad.. :’( im one of those unlucky girls who are expecting too much to end up in a REAL relationship (well,actually i just confronted him this morning,i told him that i dont want to be too clingy for him but guess what,i am now kasalanan q i fall for him too fast but i wasnt looking for fun its just that im not yet ready to commit again and so did he,so gnito set-up nmin..)so different case nmn kmi ni guy it happened that we both just got out of a relationship,so we both dont want to commit muna,i agreed to that kind of set-up,ung KAMI PERO HINDI,tama kyong lhat,at 1st masaya tlga,u felt so much love whenever u’re together,u just wish that tym wud stop dun s moment n pinaka masaya kyo,ung u cant let go of each other,mas mahirap s case q kz magkalayo kmi ng work ni guy,nagkikita lng kmi kpg off duty sya,or kpag saktong weekends,i know he likes me hnd nmn sya cguro mageeffort n puntahan aq s workplace q minsan kpag off nya,everytime we’re together i’ll make sure n we will be spending quality time together,never p kmi nagaway,not until last night,nagselos aq(gosh!until now nahuhurt aq,i know i dont have the right pro un n ung nararamdaman q for him eh..)so that wasnt the only time n nagselos aq i even checked his fb,and whalah!!caught him flirting with this girl,i almost die last nyt..i didnt tell him what i discovered,instead i just asked him if what am i to him..if i was important to him,its a make or break questions that wud lead me to the REAL relationship that i am dreaming of..right now the time is ticking so slow,i wanna know what wud be his answer,if it is positive then that’s a good sign for me,and it is negative then i have to move on and learn not get into this kind of relationship again,i may say im not ugly,there are lots of guys n nanliligaw skin,mas mayaman,mas gwapo,mas mamahalin aq,ready magcommit,but what can i do if i only want is HIM,not anybody else,khit anong flaws meron sya i accept him for who he is,for what he is..now the big question is does he feels the same for me?

    i cant say n narelieve aq for sharing this to ur blog,but i can say n hnd pla aq nagiisa..
    cguro nga mas malala pa ung case ng iba compare skin,to think n we’re both single tpos gnito ung set-up nmin..one thing is for sure,i do love him..i hope he feels the same way,gnito pla ung feeling ng prang nkabitin ka,hnd mo lam kng bibitawan k n b nya or he will hold u tight till the end..

    • Hi Rhia,

      Marami naman talaga ang nakakaranas ng ganitong relationship.. Lucky for those who were truly loved and have a REAL reationship, just like the last commentor. But for us, maybe that guy isn’t the right guy for us. Just hold on for a while, and wait for his answer. Good luck to your relationship Rhia. Well as for me, I’m so happy with my current relationship, we’ll celebrate our 2 year anniversary this August :) Anyways, it’s not too late for both of you, maybe he’ll realize soon that you’re the right girl for him.

  17. hi! =)
    i already recved his answer,and i dont know if it was a good thing or not,he said he cant commit until he’s sure of whatever it is,i think s feelings nya,i was badly hurt wen i recved that message,but i kept our conversation cool,i dont want to sound im too “pushy”,bka kz isipin nyang pinipilit q sya,so he didnt answer kng ano aq s knya,gusto qng paniwalaan lhat ng tumatakbo s isip q,first he still loves his ex,second playing safe sya,third i wasnt good enough for him..but still im in doubt,he wants to keep whatever we are now,whatever we have now,and aq nmn mejo narelieved ng konti knowing n he still wants me,confused aq,but mejo ok n rin aq,now i know HOW TO PLAY,we’ll keep it this way,n KAMI PERO HINDI,but i need my space back,not for long i just need to re-assess myself,some reality check,then the GAME IS ON,i’ll play as long as i can,malay ntin the end of it i might be the WINNER.. =)

    by the way congrats to u! im happy that sumone/ sum people who’ve been caught in this kind of relationship has already moved on and living thier lives to the fullest with the one who truly loves you..

  18. hi:) im in pseudo relationship right now…and its so complicated…mahirap tlaga xa, napaka risky at dpat you know how to play the game,.. im so confused,,,bsta ang status namin ngayon, nag hoholding hands, magkatx araw araw,hangouts, and madalas palitan kami ng sweet nothings,mahirap xa in a way that tingin ko im starting to feel something about this guy, more than attraction na kung baga…but im afraid na linawin sakanya kung ano tlga meron sa pagitan namin..baka kasi yung sagot niya,makakasakit lang skin at masira lang kung anong meron kami ngayon…:(

    • Yun ang pinakamahirap na part. Nakakatakot mag confront kasi baka masakit yung mabibitawan nyang salita. :( Anyways, kaya mo yan..makaka move on ka din. Cheer up!

  19. Hi guys…

    I’m into this kind of relationship right now.. Actually, I’m the type of girl who dont stay single for a long time, pero it doesn’t mean na pervert or play girl ako. But after kami nag break ng bf ko, the person na sobra kong nasaktan.. na sobrang bait.. na nagsisi talaga ako after what i did..( for some serious personal reasons).. I’ve decided na no commitments to anyone, let’s say, I’ll stop being into another relationship again…. But here it comes, an old friend.. 2 years kaming hindi nagkita.. infact crush na crush ko siya before. He had a gf before, pero nalaman ko lang na matagal na pala silang break.. After that.. there it started… texting, calling, magkikita kami.. hang out with HIS friends… one day, i asked him what was our status.. kasi naging close na talaga kami… and he asked me what i want.. i told him na im not ready for a serious relationship especially commitments.. and i just want us to be friends… close friends…. then sabi nya we’re the same.. not ready to commit for a serious relationship.. yun it started…. its been months na… BUT THERE’S NO SEX INVOLVED.. But guys, I just wanted to tell you na its really up to you if magpapadala kayo sa feelings nyo… Like me, i stayed tough! I even told him that the one who falls first will be the looser.. i know its hard, especially sa mga girls, pero it’s really up to us how we handle it.. Sometimes na fe feel ko ang “jealousy”.. pero super kino control ko talaga.. I don’t know where i stand in his life.. and at this point, im starting to get out in this situation.. before pa ako ang maging looser!

    ” The reason why I don’t admit how special someone is, it’s because i don’t wanna deal with the reality of pain knowing the fact that for him.. I’m nothing.”

    • @ kleyr: I love the quote ha.. kasi parang ganyan yung quote na bumagay sakin dati. :)

      @ resha: Maniwala ka sa mga friends mo, ang lalake marami nyan sa mundo. Pero real friends konti lang. Kaya pahalagahan mo yung payo sayo ng mga kaibigan mo. Dati ganyan ako mag isip, bahala na maging tanga basta masaya kahit paminsan minsan nasasaktan. Kahit masakit yung sasabihin ng mga kaibigan at least totoo at talagang alam mo na may concern sila sayo kasi ayaw nila na gumagawa ka ng mali. Anyways, ganyan na ganyan ang sitwasyon ko dati. May gf sya tapos hindi pa nya maiwan iwan. Pero mas pinili ko paniwalaan ang mga kaibigan ko, kaya tinigilan ko na ang pseudo thing nmin. You deserve someone better, yung hindi ka gaganyanin. :)

      @lost realist: kung ayaw mo ng ganung set up let go of it.. :)

      thanks sa mga replies nyo sa blog post ko..it’s so overwhelming na marami kayo ang na comment dito… :)

    • I shud really stay away from him now… na fe feel ko na he really missed his ex gf…. na badtrip yung day ko wen i saw his status in Fb na .. ” I miss you! Bring back the LOVE! ” shit naman… i know hindi yun ako kasi…… he never loved me… different naman talaga yung LIKE sa LOVE dba? :(

      • Hi Kleyr,

        Sorry for the late response. Good decision, stay away from him patuloy ka lang talaga masasaktan lalo na talagang walang commitment.. be strong.. :) There’s somebody out there na willing magbigay ng pagmamahal sayo

      • yeah riight! totoo nga! and ive finally found the one who truly loves me without any hesitation.. i l <3 v e h!m :]

  20. Hmm.. After reading all the post, nasad ako.. :(
    Actually, I’m also in a pseudo relationship right now. Almost 3months na din.
    We work in the same company. Nung una di ko sya pinapansin, kasi di ko sya type. Pero si guy lagi kinukuha ung attention ko. Till’ magkasabay kami sa bus on our way home, he got my fone number. Nag dinner kami that night. Treat nya ko. Dun na nagsimula.
    Magkatext parati, kahit nasa loob ng office magka email, etc.,
    I have a bf that time , pero sya single. Di ko inadmit sa kanya na may bf ako, sabi ko im single too. Maybe kasi I’m starting to like him na.
    Todo effort sya, lagi kami magkasama after work. We enjoy each others company.
    Then, sinama nya ko sa province nila, pinakilala nya ko sa family nya. And ganun din ako. Then i’ve come to realize na “Yah, i like him.” Obvious na blooming ako sabi ng mga kawork namin, ang alam nga nila kami na ni guy pero sabi ko hindi nman sya nanliligaw. Eventhough magkaiba kami ng dept e sa group ko pa din sya lagi nasama.. celebrations, gimik etc.,
    Nakipag break ako sa bf ko, and the reason? The reason e na-fall na ko kay guy.
    Ayun, everything is okay. As in masaya ako..
    Nag iintay ako na magsabi sya saken na he likes me, kasi i can see it in his acts and i can feel it.
    But after a month, habang naguusap kami sa fone, gabi na un e. Tinesting ko sya, sabi ko, “ligawan mo kaya ung katabi ko sa table na may crush sayo. Hahah!” Then he answered, “hindi ako pede manligaw”. Ofcourse na confuse ako, i asked him why. As in pinilit ko sya. Then ayun na, umamin na. May gf na sya! Nagkabalikan na sila ng gf nya nung time na nagiging close kami. GRABE! I dont know what to react, di kagad ako nakapagsalita. Akala ko kasi okay kami.
    sabi nya hindi na daw nya mahal yung gurl, napilitan lang sya makipagbalikan. Masaya daw sya pag kasama ako. At gusto nya ako. Pero one month na nakakalipas hindi pa din sya nakikipag break sa gf nya. Ako naman, tuloy pa din. In short, tinanggap ko na kaibigan lang ako, na committed na sya. Pero ganun pa din kami gaya ng dati. He always make me feel na special ako sa kanya. At nagugulat na lang din ako kasi he always tried to kiss me, hug me.. Hinahayaan ko lang. Mahal ko na nga ata sya.. :(
    I really dont know what to do. Nahihirapan na ko. nalaman na din to ng mga frends ko at nagalit sila saken kasi ang T*NGA ko daw. Pero parang manhid ako, wala ako pakialam.. Nawalan na ko ng frends. Dati lagi ako masaya, ngaun masaya din naman pero nasasaktan. Tinanong nya ko kung mahal ko na ba sya, i answered “Ofcourse not!” Natatakot kasi ako na baka pag inamin ko, that would be the end na nung kung anong meron kami. Di ko naman sya matanong ng ganun kasi alam ko na may gf sya at baka di ko magustuhan ung isasagot nya. Ang hirap talaga.
    Please advise me what to do. Thanks in advance.

  21. im currently in pseudo-relationship… this is shet… i like her naman.. pero gus2 nya no commitment.. sarap cguro sa ibang lalaki na ganito pero ako hindi… i just waste my time to her.. damned her… i liked her , i loved her but still she wants a pseudo-relationship.. she’s not pretty… she’s not tall, she’s not white.. she’s brown , not so pretty and shes a petite.. but when i see her i feel in love wit her.. i feel comfortable wit her…

  22. correct.. it really hurts to be in this kind of relationship ’cause u can’t have any assurance from the other individual.

  23. ngcmula ksi yan kawork mate ko sya tpos ndevelop ako s knya mas aswa sya at my isang anak ako my bf pero sobrng saya ko pag kasama ko sya hni kmi pero ngkakaintindhan kmi sa lahat ng bagay nghoholding hands kmi kiss but NOT sex no..i am 25 and his 26,hirap kc hndi ko alm gagawin ko sa nraramdaman ko mhal ko n ata sya..minsan nhuhuli ko sya nkatingin skin at iba yung tingin nya nkakakilig yung tingin nya ..hayyy naku grabe anu ba gagawin ko miss shine? masaya ko pag anjan sya.sya din gumagawa ng effort punthan ako kung nsan ako..

    • Well, if I were you STOP.. since you asked for my advice.. parang kasi “been there done that”.. so you should stop ngayon pa lang.. isipin mo merong pamilyang masisira..at kawawa naman bf mo.. you can find happiness din later on sa bf mo kung you just open your heart to him and close the feelings for that guy with a wife.. :-)

  24. Hmm.
    Ako naexperience ko na ang pseudo relationship.
    Nag open up na ko nun una pa lang dito sa blog na ito. How it started and what’s the current status.. Then, I seek for an advice, sabi tigilan na.
    Pero dahil hindi ko kaya, hindi ko itinigil. Sabi ko nlng sa sarili ko, I’ll never know what will happen next if I wont give it a try. Kasi im hoping na IT WOULD BE REAL.
    Then finally, eto na nga. Natapos na. Sino kawawa, sino luge, sino nawalan ng mga true friends. AKO.
    Hindi ako nakinig sa knilang lahat. Pinairal ko ang katangahan ko. Aray.
    Sabi ko pa, “To hell with everybody, im gonna be happy!”
    Ano napala ko, wala. Kahihiyan. Kasi nakikita nila ako, iniwan na ko nung guy e. Officemate pa namin. Ako pa ung iniiwasan nung guy. Napapansin nila un. Siguro iniisip nila, “oh ayan, nagpakatanga ka.. ano napala mo.. diba sinabihan ka na namin pero hindi ka nakinig.”
    Kaya ngaun, nagppaka strong ako. Never ko ipinapakita sa knila na nasasaktan ako. Hai. Hirap. Pero deep inside sobrang sakit. Matapos kasi ang lahat lahat ganun na lang un, iiwan ka. SH*T Talaga.
    So sa lahat, trust me in what will I say.. Kasi nangyari na saken e.. Sabi ko nga, ill never know until I never try, so eto na natuto na ko. Nagkamali na kasi e. Itigil nyo na habang maaga pa. kasi wala naman talaga patutunguhan ung ganyan. Move on with your life.. kalimutan na ung mga feelings.. kasi kung totoo talaga ung love, destiny will make its on way. Hay. How I wish I could turn back the time…

    • @ Resha – Tama, wala talagang patutunguhan ang ganyang klaseng relasyon. It’s better to be single and mingle rather than “half” committed. Parang merong relasyon pero parang wala naman..ang pangit ng ganun..walang kasiguraduhan.. Hindi sa lahat ng oras ay pwedeng puso ang paiiralin..minsan gamitin din natin ang utak. :-) Bumalik ka sa mga kaibigan mo, oo nagalit sila sayo pero if they’re really your true friends they would understand at kaya ka nila tanggapin ulit

    • hmmm i may say i tried to end ung relationship with him but when ever i try he just embraces me and whisper please wag po,,, di ko kya mwala ka,, i tried not to show my soft side when ever i’m with him pero in that moment i cant help it,,, ewan ko ba kung bkit for spo long now ko lng ulit nramdaman to.. he is not a hunk type of guy then my previous ones but he is different,,, way to different,,, lhat ng qualities nya swak sa akin he can even control mu stubbornness that no one ever can.. he even cried in-front of me when i want to end it again for the 2nd time… hmmm yesterday lng he suprised me he bring me to the beach and he confess our relationship to his driver.. how flattering kya lng ok n sana but still yung gf nya p din ang ngiging topic,,, how can he forgive her like that nlaman kase nhya na natulog yung gf nya with a tibo and nlabas sila secretly but still he never get mad at her,,, minsan pinipilit ko wag na xa pansinin kase sobrang sakit na… hbang tumatagal lalo lng ako nhuhulog sa kanya…

  25. and i really hate myself dahil pinabayaan ko ung sarili ko na gawin nya skin un ..
    i already ask him kung pinaglalaruan nya lang ako .. pero nung sinabi nyang hindi i thought that meron na tlaga kmeng the word “us” .. but god !! im still inlove with him and i really hate myself for expecting too much from him .. last night after drinking with them ( ksama sya ) nalunod ko sarili ko sa alak khit 1 bottle lang un ng the bar .. nag one on one pa kme sa klahating bote .. after that maybe nkita nya na i change .. kse nlaman ko na from my best friend dhil ndulas sya na hindi kme .. all of them thought na kame ,, pero hnd pla ..
    in the end ksma ko ang bestfriend kong umiiyak sa mid nyt market .. im so stupid >.<

  26. hmmm its fun having a pseudo kind of relationship specially kung pareho kayong my ka relationship… its just too weird how different it feels when your with him than your real bf/gf.. even my pseudo bf say the same thing about it… he even told me he can give up his gf just to be with me,,, but i dont believe him coz his action speaks louder then his words…hmm pero khit gaNUN susulitin ko p din yung mga days na mkasama ko sya… kase pagkasama ko xa parang yoko n mtapos yung oras… we laught too much wshenn we are together.. we never had a dull moment,,, sometimes sabay p kme magsabe ng sana tayo n lng,, hmmm msaya nga isipin mging kme in the end pero maipaglban nya kya ako over his 5years inconsiderate legal gf… hmm love tlga nkkaloka… masyading misteryoso… pero isa lng gusto mangyare sana nga mging kme na.. no u and me but us..

  27. @samantha, you know ganyan na ganyan ang nangyari saken. As in parang kami na talaga pero may gf sya at 5years na sila. sabi nya parang hindi na nya mahal pero hindi nman nya maiwan. feel ko na mahal nya un. pero hindi nya naman ako kaya igive up kahit pinag aawayan nila ako. Lage pa din kami magkasama. Siguro nung dumating ung point na nafeel kong mahal ko na talaga sya tapos iba din ung pinaparamdam nya saken, ako na ung gumawa ng way para magbreak sila ng gf nya. Ayun nga, ang result, nakipagbreak si guy sa gf nya. Imagine 5years. Pero ganun din ung ginawa ko e, nakipagbreak ako sa bf ko for 4years. Ansaya ko nun, kasi sabi ko at last, wala ng problema. Sabi ko pa nga, I’d be completely happy. Yah, things go on my way. Pero in the end, wala din e. We should always remember that “once he cheated on his gf, he’ll cheat on you too”. Kaya ayun, in short naghiwalay din kami. Sana nga naging friends na lang kami, close friends diba at di na sinubukan na maging kami. Well, ang mabebenefit na lang naten dun e atleast we learned a lesson from it.

  28. Hello po!!
    It’s so nice na nakita ko rin kung ano ang tawag sa relationship where i’m into now. Now I know na it’s called pseudo-relationship pala. Yeah right! It really hurts a lot to be in this situation. It’s been 3 months already mula ng mapasok aq sa sitwasyong ito. meron syang gf for 3 years already(on and off and long distance relationship ). Tapoz one time nagbreak sila at yun yung pinakamahabang time na off sila. Until nagkakilala kami ni boy. Niligawan nya ako and sinagot ko nman sya kasi Na.fall aq agad eh and by that time di ko pa alam ang past nya. Pero nung kami na nagsimula na ako mag.ask sa mga past relationships nya. Umamin nman sya and he also said na di pa rin daw nya makalimutan ex nya. He’s still moving on pa daw. As expected nagalit ako kasi parang panakip butas lang ako pero sabi nya di nman daw kasi he loves me din daw pero iba nga lang kaysa sa ex nya. It hurts like hell pero sumige pa rin ako, tinanggap ko pa rin sya kasi mahal ko na talaga eh and I’m reli hoping na baka mka.move on rin sya at baka dumating din yung time na maging akin na yung love nya totally. Pero nung Christmas vacation umuwi yung ex nya at nagkita sila and nagkanbalikan na naman. I was blind with what was happening by that time kasi nagbabakasyon din ako sa lolo ko and minsan lang kami magka.usap that time through phone kasi so busy ako. Pag may time na magkausap kami never nman nya binaggit na ngkabalikan na sila. After nung vacation pagbalik ko dun ko na nalaman na sila na pala ulit, at take note sa facebook pa. Sobrang sakit pero pinakinggan ko pa rin yung side ni boy kung ano ba tlga nangyari bakit bigla na lang naging ganun. So complicated. I asked him if ano na kami, pano na yung sa amin?? tapos sabi nya ayaw pa daw nya ako malayo..di daw nya kaya. Kasi kahit papano He feel something na for me. At ako nman na tlagang in love ay nagpakamartir. Tinanggap ko ulit yung reason nya. Hindi na kami ofixaly pero lagi pa din kaming nagkikita, nagtitx til dawn, nilelebre pa din nya ako and he still shows he cares a lot for me and very concern. There are times na gusto ko na magquit pero ayaw nya pumayag. bigyan ko lang daw sya ng time para ma.settle ang lahat lahat. Naghintay ako pero still walang nangyari. Sila pa rin. Ang sakit kasi yung relationship stat nya sa fb ay with his ofixal gf. Evryday kami nagkikita. Kaya everyday din ako nasasaktan kasi nasa tabi ko lang sya pero parang ang layo nya. Hindi ko ma.voice out mga hinanakit ko kasi ako din lang nman masasaktan pag walang kasiguruhan mga sagot nya sa tanong ko. I tried to push him away na. Sabi ko sya na lang lumayo, wag na nya ako i.contact or watsoever pero ayaw pa rin nya. Di daw nya matiis. Naguguluhan ako, sometimes naiisip ko na mas mahal nya siguro ako at napipilitan lang sya na balikan yung ex nya kasi natatakot sya sa sasabihin ng mga friends nila at saka nakokonsensya lang siguro sya kasi sobrang love sya ng gf nya at sayang din nman yung 3 yrs nila compare sa pinagsamahan namin. Pero puro nalang ako sana, siguro sana.. Kasi til now wala pa din. As usual para lang kaming more than frnz but not lovers. Gusto ko na mag.move on pero di pa kaya ng puso ko. Di na nga ako nag.entertain pa ng ibang guys kasi I’m still hoping na mgwowork din yung relationship namin when time comes. Pero wala eh. Sobrang hirap. Ginagawa nya lahat para matawa ako, para mapasaya daw ako at nang makabawi sya pero di pa rin eh.. Yeah siguro nakakasmile ako pag magkasama kami pero deep inside i’m hurting. I can’t even call him “mine”. palagi silang nag-aaway ng gf nya at ako ang dahilan. His gf confronts me pa nga and block me sa fb account ng boy. She even told the boy na wag na makipagkita sa akin o magtext man lang kasi alam na nya ang tungkol sa aming dalawa ng bf nya. Masakit din daw sa part nya pero kakayanin daw nya dahil sobrang mahal daw nya c boy. Nakokonsensya na nga ako. Pero si Boy kahit pinagbawalan na, nakikipagkita pa rin sa akin, nagtitext pa rin ng mga sweet nothings… God I must be crazy.. Sobrang martyr ko na.. Eh pano di ko rin sya kayang mawala. I’m not yet ready to move on with my life and forget about him. nasanay na rin kasi ako na lagi syang nandyan. It’s really a torture pero di ko pa talaga kayang mag.end eh..

    • Yan exactly ang nangyari sakin before… kaya rin siguro sa katagalan natutunan ko humindi sa kanya.. Kelangan mo lang isipin na may nasasaktan din gaya mo…you need to talk to him kung sino ba talaga.. hindi pwedeng dalawa kayo.. If he wants you both then ikaw na bumitaw..wala na rin kasi silbi yung pagsasama nyo kung nasasaktan ka pati yung gf nya.. Isipin mo kung ikaw ang gf dba masakit din? Yan ang inisip ko before kaya ko bumitaw.. at nakakapagod din.. SOBRA. Lalo na kung wala ka may pinanghahawakan… Thank you sa pag drop ng experience mo sa blog ko…mostly babae ang nakakaranas at nag sshare dto kaya di ka nag iisa girl.. :-) Kelangan mo lang talaga kayanin na mawala sya that way malay mo ma realize nya mas matimbang ka pala talaga compare sa gf nya..

      • Thanks po sa advice. Sobrang malaking help po ito and I’ll try to follow it. I think this will help me a lot talaga. Thanks po. :)
        I know makakaya ko na lumayo sa kanya I mean kakayanin ko na talaga for my own sake. If kami talaga magiging kami talaga..and if we’re not meant to be then I think wala na akong magagawa.. It’s high time na siguro n isipin ko naman sarili ko at yung ibang tao na nasasaktan na namin. Thanks a lot po.

  29. Hello,

    Hay, ang dami palang katulad ng status ko ngaun. I have a long-time boyfriend of about 8 years, pero sa 8 years na un the last 2 years laging away. I even entertained a couple of men kahit kami. Ako ung naging player dito. Kasi naman may hinahanap akong qualities sa guy na di ko talaga mahanap sa kanya pero at the same time hindi ko sya mabitawan kasi sobrang bait at loyal nya saken. Kaso dahil ndi sya ganun katalino, kaguwapo, kasipag, at dami pa namang ibang umaaligid sa ken na mas mature, guwapo, etc. natempt tlga akong makipagdate sa iba.

    Malala pa nun is nagmigrate ako. Hindi ko pa rin sya mabreak kasi gusto na siya talaga ng family ko, close na sila, tas si mama pa ngayon na nya nagustuhan after almost 7 years na nagtatago. Nakakagulat pa is gusto na nya akong makasal sa kanya, kung kelan ayaw ko na sya masyado.

    May nakita akong Pilipino dito kung san ako ngaun, at pareho kaming nainlove kagad sa isa’t isa. Ang kaso, bata sya saken, tas ayaw ng family ko sa family nya kasi mayabang daw tas dinidiscriminate pa nila sya dahil sa dialect nya. (Go figure). So para kaming Romeo and Juliet. Take note, kami parin nung bf ko. Kaso, itong pseudo rel na to, it suits me well. Sinagip ako sa depression, ung mga things na ginagawa ng magsyota like dating, txting, etc. ginagawa namin, un lagi kaming away-bati kasi ndi ko rin alam ang limits namin as a couple kasi pseudo nga, much worse parang panakip butas ko sya, for convenience sake, pero ang problema nahulog na talaga siya sa ken. Pilit ko syang sinasabihang umiwas nalang saken para pareho kaming di mahirapan pero ayaw nya. Kahit sinabi kong mahal ko parin ang bf ko kesa sa kanya (ewan ko ba bakit di ko maiwan din) wala syang pakialam at tinatry parin nyang iwork out ito. Pag naman winowork out nya eh.. naku! ndi ko na naman sya matiis. Hindi ko tlaga malaman anong gagawin ko. Stay with my longtime bf, kasi mas may kasiguraduhang love nya ako (pero ndi happy), o stay with my pseudo bf, kasi sya nagpapahappy saken (pero walang kasiguraduhan ang “love”).. either way, selfish tlaga ako. Pero ano advise nyo po.. naloloka na ako.. I admit.. kasalanan ko to..

    • Hi,

      Talaga bang hindi ka na happy dun sa long term bf mo? Kasi kung ako sa situation mo try ko muna i work out ung sa bf ko kasi sayang yung 8 years and girl maniwala ka may karma. Sorry ha straight forward lang ako. Kung nararamdaman mo na hindi ka na talaga happy sa kanya then makipag break ka (formally). Kasi mahirap naman nyan na baka si current mo ay super loyal and then ikaw pala may mahal ng iba..don’t stay in a relationship na awa na lang nararamdaman mo.. you can’t have them both kasi makasarili nga yun. Unfair naman dun sa tao. Isipin mo na lang what if baliktad ang sitwasyon, sya itong merong iba at ikaw loyal.. ano mararamdaman mo? Basta timbangin mo na maayos and then decide. Mamili ka lang dun sa dalawa kasi mahirap na. Ang karma ngayon parang text lang yan seconds lang bibilangin mo. Gawin mo kung ano ang makakapag pasaya sayo at the same time kung ano ang tama. :-) Sana nakatulong to..

  30. hi guys…naku,without knowing it pala I’m on that relationship too…or rather kami…yeah,it’s hard and sad as well kc there’s no guarrantee at all na kayo nga at sa mga things that might comes out in the end…especially in girls part when doing such private things…so need to be carefull in every actions that were taking but at the same time just enjoy the moments before it’ll last… :’)

  31. hi(:

    tomo(((: in situation (PAST) ….. meron akong boyfriend more than 4 years naging kame ….hmmm oky ths is the story….I HAVE long distance relationship not actually long distance……. umuuwi nmn siya dito if my time siya then umaalis siya pag tumtawag na yung maniger niya…. so ang naging status namin is chating and textng,calling,.. then one day i view hes friendster and i saw a pic of a girl and comments… matagal na pla akong nagmumukhang tanga…..then one night ka chat ko siya i ask him”MALIBAN SA AKIN SINO PA BA ANG GIRL FRIEND MO?” first ans is “ALA PO MHIE IKAW LANG ” then i said and ask him again “ARE YOU SURE?!THEn WAT ABOUT THE PIC AND COMMENT ON YOUR FRIENDSTER?” he ans me ” OO MERON” how hell!!! thats hurt… nag dicsyon akong pakawalan siya pero ayaw niya ,pero di ba nasaktan ka di ganon kadali… then after a few days he call me … he apologz , di ko rin siya kayang iwan kasi mahal ko siya e yun na dun na nag umpisa yung kagagahan ko minhal ko siya kahit may mahal siyang iba ….. ang hirap hirap sobra that time di ko na alam kung ano ang lugar ko sa puso niya ,di ko alamkung mahal ba niya talga ako,at di ko na alam kung anong halga ko sa kanya lagi sila nagaaway ng gf niya becoz of me na ngongonsencya na ako di ko nakaya dahil na sasaktan na ako,araw araw na lng ako umiiyak becoz of him …,then after 1 year bigla na lng siya nawala ,bigla na lang kame nawalan ng communication ,di ko alam kung nag break na kame or wat bastah ….. hanggang unting untiko na siya nakakalimutan ……. until day i saw hes message in my friendster “HI MHIE HOW ARE YOU? MISS KITA …..BREAK NA PALA KAME NG GIRLFRIEND KO WALA LANG GUSTO KO LANG MALAMAN MO …… TXT ME THIS IS MY NUMBER “????????””……. sympre ako din si gaga yun pumyag ako namakipag balikan sa kanya ,yun txting,chatting,dating etc,. di ko alam kung ano ba talga feeling niya sa akin ,kung ano ako sa kanya,…..alam niyo people ano pinakamasakit doon he never said simula at sa huli di Ko siya narinig na nag sabi sa akin na I LOVE YOU MHIE ….. )))))): alam niyo ba guys i hate my self becouse i love him so much …… and this is not the end of the story……. we still have a communication its year 2010 alam kong may iba siya , pinapabayaan ko lang …. hanggang sa na realize ko na di lng pala siya ang lalake sa mundo ……woaah after 4 years of suffering …. and finally my prince came true my FIANCE…. im getting merried soon(((:

    ang dami kong natutunan sa inyo akala ko nagiisa lang ako sa mundo ..ang dami rin plang nasasaktan na tao ……. pero kaya niyo yan guys …..weeeh ((:

  32. hi every one!!!.. same scenario same feelings.. same ending..
    bakit pa kc nauso ang MU… kung pde namang mgmahalan na lang kayu.. i dont want to be a loser.. as much as possible il control everything that wil going to happe, pero anu ayun isang gabi umiiyak n alang ako.. tapos nung bglang ng ring ang fon Siya pala.. para tuloy akong tanga iiyak iyak, pa.. pero nga ang hirap ng ganto yun bang gsto m umiwas kht ilang beses na pero andun k padin sa tao.
    palaksan n alang ng loob to.. kung tlgang wlang patutunguhan e di end up na,,

    • hallow kie lang mag reply? hehe

      —> are yOu sure! you end up najud?? hehe..diba mahirap mag move,on?? or kaya’ mubAng gawin? mAg paka martyr na kung mag pakA martyr..! owkie lang naman diba? kahit anung sabihin ng iba..!! lub mu kasi eh.. alam munang mali perO gagawin mu parin dahil nga lub mu cia diba..!! mag paka tanga, mag paka gagO,,!! tas kakayanin ang lahat para lang ikaw ang mananaLo sa larOng pinapasOkan muh..!! hehe yun LAng :)

  33. hi guys im newbie here…well share ko din tong sa aking situation…and it goes this way..im from iloilo…sa office namin my nililigwan ako una frontdesk officer namin w/c happened to be one of our friends sa office i mean circle of friends din cia namin… eto yung kaibigan ko from the admin department which happened also na friends din namin i seek advice from her para sa frontdesk officer at that time. so hiningi ko yung number niya etong hiningi-an kong number niya has a bf already in the long run this girl na may bf we exchange sweet conversation and it turned out na yung isang officemate namin d k na pinagpatuloy nililigawan. etong officemate ko nga katxtmate ko cia we kept it sa office and sa kanyang boyfriend na kami nagtxt sa isa’t isa…that time sweet2x kami sa text i tried to text her hatid ko cia sa office pero patago kaming dalawa she agreed. i wasn’t expecting na papayag cia. araw2x kami magkita sa office namin gabi2x naman kaming naguusap sa phone minsan nalilito na bf niya bakit busy daw phone nila sa bhay niya so she make alibi na kunwari ate niya tumawag. and my times na sinasabihan niya yung bf niya about me. we only dated twice na patago.i admitted to her na i fall in love with her and so she was. palagi silang nagaaway ng bf niya. muntik na niya breakan yung bf nya kaso natakot cia breakan bf niya. so makita ko din sa mga kilos niya at i always care for her in the office. to make the story short nalaman na ng bf niya na ako nanliligaw sa kanya, on her side ayaw niya ng gulo so kinausap niya ako para matigil na itong gulo sinabihan niya nlang ako na hindi na siya na inlove sa akin. we kept it 9months sa office na wlang isa sa officemate and friends namin ang nkaalam. after that incident na notice na ng lahat kaming dalawa na mejo nagkalabo sa isa’t isa so doon na nila nalaman na nanligaw ako sa kanya….yung feeling kami pero hindi…sayang noh?5 months hindi kami naguusap sa office.until i’m the one who talk to her na wla na yun.friends nalang ulit tayo…ako nalang mismo ang umiiwas sa mga nangyayari.but its good somehow atleast you learned how to tackled that kind of situation. no matter how weak we are in life we should always be strong enough

  34. Hi guys pa share lang din po!

    I had this pseudo relationship din soOo many times not once, twice but trice or even four times i guess… Meron sa tenant namen na may asawa, sa ka officemate ko, sa friend ko, sa kumpare ko etc… sad to say that relationship never became true, all of that end up nothing… So sad yes but in that experience learned how to play the game but unfortunately babae ako so talo pa din ako, ako kase unang naiinlove eh… Buti nalang ngayon kaya ko ng pigilan nararamdaman ko!…

  35. Im searching about pseudo relationship at nakita ko itong blog… nakikibasa ako sa experienced nyo…nakakrelate kc.. may pseudo bf ako now mag to two months plang kami.. 1 yr na cla ng real gf nya…at 3 yrs naman kami ng bf ko.. iwan ko ba kong paano nagsimula..we both admitted it naman na puro kami may partners sa simula pa lang. .sa una, parang nahulog kc ung loob ko sa kanya–dumating talaga ang time na parang hihiwalayan ko na ung bf ko at cnabi ko yan sa kanya…he just answered me a smile..nakakaloka.naghihintay pa naman ako ng opinion nya…naisip ko, ano ba tong tao to, ang labo. hindi ba ako sasaluhin nito???good for me, marunong akong magcontrol..binabawasan ko na ang pagtext..nagfofocus ako sa trabaho ko…occupied ung mind ko sa maraming bagay..dapat lang talaga di magpadalus dalus magdecision.iniisip ko, hindi ako ang dapat mainlove ng todo.alam ko kc talo ang mainlove sa wlang kasiguraduhan na relation.
    As of now, nagkikita pa rin kami,,tinatawagan nya ako palagi,tinitext .as if parang totoong bf talaga..nagmomonitor kong saan na ako, kumakain na ba ako..hahaha.haay subrang sweet nya na as if to the highest level…pigipigilan ko na ang sarili ko.hehehe..nagset ako sa sarili ko na dapat ganito hindi na lumampas..pinasok mo to,laruin mo ng maayos at malinis..palagi pa nya sinasabi sakin na “I love you” at subra kitang namis with eye to eye contact effect pa.ako naman ang hindi nagreresponse.he always asking me kong minahalko rin ba sya at namimiss ko ba sya…nagloloading naman ako.iniisip ko, dapat ko bang sagutin yan?? … sinasagot ko lng sya ng smile at sabi,oo namiss rin kita..hindi ko na rin kc alam kong ano yung nararamdaman ko for him kya un nlng sagot ko….basta, kong magkasama kami ok nmn..comfortable kami sa isat-isa…masaya..exciting..we treat each day na parang last day na namin..iwan ko ba..parang bumabaliktad ang situation namin.un ang nafefeel ko.pero auko rin nmn mag assume…un kc ang no.1 rule sa pseudo rel..never assume…para di ka masyadong masaktan..sa kanya kc nakakaramdam ako ng excitement kong magkasama kmi.ung sa bf ko parang lahat natural…kaya di ko alam ko anong talaga.sa ngayon,inenjoy lang muna namin kong ako ung meron.naopen ko kc sa kanya na im planning to stop this na kc nakakatakot minsan.ayaw nmn nya pumayag..iniisip ko nlng..anytime pwede maputol lahat..d na kailangan cgro sabihin un.

  36. been to this pseudo thing, there was a time i felt jealous, paranoid, desperate and the worst thing i fell in love. its so hard to ease the pain my own thats why i confronted him with my feelings not thinking of the consequence that he might disappear in my life, after everything, he didnt give a damn reaction! i just accept the fact that our game is over unluckily im the loser because i felt love, but after a week of no communication he suddenly message me that he’s fine now and ready to explain his side, i was thinking that he will clear things up and end everything we had and it will kill me! But i was wrong.. he admit that he’s been confused with love and lust and ask his self if his ready to commit, somehow it made me realize that i already gave everything for him to stay, fast and easy. it really put my heart on its weakest but he suddenly kissed me whispering that HE LOVES ME TOO he said that we almost have this spark for each other and just continue working with the flame and him asking me to be his girlfriend made me the HAPPIEST! we dont promise forever but we are working for it…

    FALSE THING can be even TRUE… ;)
    good luck to all you people who commit yourself in this kind of relationship…
    be brave enough to take the risk…. it might be painful but just enjoy para worth it naman ang pain… :) cheers!

  37. Hello Everyone!!

    hay … nafeel ko na din yan, alam mo yung ang sakitsakit talga???
    actually long time crush ko xa…
    AS IN SIYA LANG….
    tapos isang araw,, nakatxt ko xa.
    tas naging sweet kme sa isat isa..
    pero nde ko ineexpect na ganun mangyayari…
    sabi nya skin sa txt gusto nya din daw ako…
    ang hirap lng kse,,, wala akong tiwala sa knya.. :(
    at eto pa…
    ako ung umayaw.
    kse sa religion namin, bawal pa magka BF.
    kapag tinuloy ko pa yon, naisip ko…
    malapit ako sa tukso!
    nde ko naman nasabi sa kanya yon kse nahihiya ako.
    napakababaw nmn kse diba?
    kaya aun. bago ako umayaw, nging COLD xa skin.
    nagbago ang lahat.
    tas parang nwong sent pa xa skin.
    pro as i said, wala akong tiwala,,, naghinala ako.
    pero sbi nmn niya tnetest nya lang daw ako.
    naniwala ako.
    pero may duda pdin e.
    ngawa na kse niya kong lokohin.

    haix. sa umpisa lng talaga masaya.
    ngaun… ung may mga ka M.U.
    wish ko sa inyo..
    sana kayo na talga.
    hanggat maaari dapat maging kayo na!
    mahirap kse pag M.U. lang eh.. malayang malaya siyang mwala sayo. :’(
    ngayon ako nagmomove on…..
    ako ang umayaw, pero ako prin ang talo!
    cguro, nde pa ako ganung nainlove,,, but ALMOST THERE na..

    GOOD LUCK nlng sa atin.. SANA MAKAYANAN NTIN TOH!

    have a nice day! :)

  38. hi, i am in this situation now, mag5mos na din cguro kming mg MU kumbaga, we went to the same school for college, nung college may long time gf xa at ako ngkaboyfie nman ako, alam nia lahat ng ngng bf ko. i promised him n im not gonna make love sa mga mggng bf ko, and partly i did, now nung ngbreak cla ng gf nia sadly my bf ako, then ngbreak din kmi ng bf ko, not bcoz of him but for some ader reasons.

    taz ngkaroon uli kmi ng communication, by late jan, ngkkta na uli kmi, then feb parang kmi na pero ndi, auko ko padin nman n mgbf at he is not the type of guy na risky. i understand him. we talked everything about anything. masya kmi.yes we do things that in a relationship does but not making love, masaya ako sknya, and alam ko msaya xa sken. i know the main reason why he doesnt want to be in a relationship, kc alam nia madame pa xang dapat gwen at mgwa for his family, i know and i understand him.. sa totoo lang msaya at msarap nman ung gntong set up, having someone out there na importante ka and having the freedom to do wat u want.. and besides mgkalayo kc kmi, i know sa sarili ko di ko pa kya mgkaroon ng long distance relationship.. but honestly been there, done that, mhirap pero if you both are willing to wait for each ader, then maybe may happy ending..=)

  39. hi! just an update,its almost a year the last time i wrote on ur blog..
    i read what i wrote,and feels like magic,i can still feel every feelings that i felt when i was writing on this page,i felt love,doubt,happiness,sadness,longing for someone,as in everything,but it was just the feelings BEFORE..

    THE GAME IS OVER..

    who won?? i am.. :)

    not because we ended up together,id let go of him.. without regrets..

    i can say that i won over him,
    before i lose myself for loving him,before i lose everything and most important things from me,ive come to my senses that he is not WORTH fighting,loving for..
    if im not good enough for him so be it,but no regrets,i did love him with all my heart,with all of me,no more no less,i did everything to keep him,but id realize that what im doing was too much effort for one sided-love,can u imagine if you’re the only one working in a relationship?well i guess u did.. ooops.. PSEUDO-RELATIONSHIP.. :)

    and now..i ended up with someone that i didnt expect to become part of my life..
    really..

    when someone walks out on u,
    there will surely be another person that will fill in for everything he/she lacks of,a better person indeed..

    the score..
    1-0

    and will never be a looser.. :)

    • Hi Rhia..thanks for coming back on my blog. While reading your comment I smiled.. why? Because like me you also learned your lesson.. and you’ve done a great job! :) Letting go of him without any regrets..he’s not worth it after all. Aja! Aja! ;)

  40. i’m in a pseudo relationship ngayon…it started when she add me in sa isang social network…inadd ko rin siya tapos sinabi ko na pretty siya then she replied my message…after that kinuha ko cp no. nya..after 1 week nagkita kami sa isang mall…maganda talaga siya in person then nanood kami ng sine…nakiss ko sya sa lips sa sinehan ewan ko ba bakit ko nagawa un akala ko magagalit then she smile at me…after namin magkita lagi na kami ng ngttxt,nagkakamustahan..last december nangyari ito…lagi na kami nagkikita nun,halos every night kami may gimik…one time hinatid ko sya sa bahay nila nagkiss kami ng matagal tapos sinabi nya sa akin na she likes me…naging masaya ako nun akala ko pwede na maging kami…after 1month kami magkakilala may nagyari sa amin we do love making..:) parang kami na talaga…minsan nagagalit sya sa akin pag may nagttxt sa akin na ibang girl…d ko naman siya gf kaya wala siyang right na magalit…may nangyari na nahuli nya akong may nagtxt sa akin na girl nabasa nya sa txt ng girl dun ko sya nagalit ng husto..ewan ko kung bakit ganun sya…nagbago na ang lahat nun…we decided na wag na kami magtxt at magkita…dnelete nya na rin ako sa fb nya…after 1 week bday nya kc un naggreet ako sa kanya…then we met up..dun ko nalaman na may bf sya na nasa abroad pero di daw sila ok…pag dumating daw bf nya maguusap daw sila…feeling ko naging panakit butas lang ako…tapos nun madalang na siya magtxt 1 day after siya magrply..alam ko na dumating na bf nya…pag nagkikita kami parang nagkakailangan na kami…one night habang ngffb ako nkita ko ung profile pic nya sa fren nya magkasama sila ng bf nya…di ko alam kung ano mararamdaman ko bigla akong nalungkot…nagdecide na ako na di ko na sya talaga ittxt at kakausapin…tnxt nya ako bakit d ako nagrrply sa txt nya tnanong nya kung galit ako…di ko na sinabi ung nakita ko at alam ko naman na alam nya ung dahilan…tiniis ko na wag sya itxt…1 week din ako di makatulog at walang ganang kumain…after 3 weeks nagulat ako nung 2mawag siya at kinamusta ako…di ko alam kung ano sasabhin ko pero napangiti ako nung tumawag sya…di ko alam ang dahilan kung bakit nya ako tntxt at tinatawagan ulit…may halong duda…sinabi nya na hindi maganda ung paguusapan nila…hirap talaga ng ganitong pakiramdam…hanggang ngayon lagi siya nagcacare sa akin at lagi akong kinakamusta…sinasabi nya sa akin na special daw ako sa kanya…para kaming mgbf/gf pag magkasama kami…next month magaabroad na siya…sana pagdating nya magbago na ang lahat…gusto ko talga sya…:)…hirap talga ng ganitong relationship…

  41. Na-experience ko na rin to pero we didn’t have a happy ending :(

    crush ko sya for 1 yr then sooner, nging close kme, s knya aq nghihiram ng books and everything, we eat together (nag-date pa kme nung valentines) but he doesn’t give me sweet stuffs and we do not have sex.. super close kme, we considered ourselves “bestfriends” for 2 yrs.. the problem is meron syang gf.

    ahead sya saken kya grumaduate na sya, so di na kme ngkikita :(.. then later my nngliligw s akn then inaccept ko nmn, sooner, i fell for him, msaya na nrarmdmn ko na ako yung ‘una’ sa heart nya hndi gya ng pseudo guy..

    now, engaged na kme ng bf ko (2yrs na kme..) then few months ago, nlaman ko na mhal n mhal & gusto pala akong pkasalan ng pseudo guy.. i heard this from his friends & his brothers.. well, it was too late na :)

    BASTA PILIIN MO NA ANO TALAGA ANG MAGPAPASAYA SAYO..

    “when one door closes, another opens.. but you take time on looking at the closed door and you won’t notice which one has opened for you”

  42. ako din… im currently having this kind of relationship… may ka live in partner ang guy na gusto ko..he’s my officemate… we oftenly see each other… sundo dito,, hatid doon, text dito, text doon, he call me everynight.. he always visit me in my house.. ganun… it seems like im special to him… i know this relationship will not last long coz i know he really loves the girl more than he loves me….nahulog na para akong KABIT!

  43. …sarap naman basahin ng mga kwento jsut because nakakarelate ako…. i got married with one child…. when i have my work i met her knowing that she has a gf in Italy for almost 3 years…sad to say i fall in love with her to the point na cnra ko family ko ng dhil sa knya.. i leave my family and my child and i dont expect that she also do the same way as I do….. we’ve been together in Cavite for almost 2years… 2years that full of happiness, trials and pains but still the love is there.. masasabi ko na naging masya ako khit umating un time na nagawa nya ulet makipagbalikan sa ex nya 2times..and still accepting it kc mahal na mahal ko xia at mas hindi ko kakayanin un mawala xia skin… she promised me na hindi na nya uulitin dhil mahal nya rin ako… masakit pero alm ko mahal nya parin un ex nya… feb.. i’ve got my new job at alabang assigned at manila.. nawalan ako ng time sa knya pero pinilit ko maguwian khit malayo just to be with her…. She ask me na umuwi nl;ng kmi sa family nya just because wala na kasama un parents nya and pumyag ako khit mahirapan ako kase mahal ko xia….. they past.. hindi ko namalayan thers something wrong with our relationship… lage kami nagaaway khit sa konti bagay… nalaman ko malapit na umuwi ng pinas un ex nya… March…. nalaman ko un totoo… cla na ulet..shit ang sakit…halos gumuho mundo ko… ang skit malamn na sa loob ng 2 taon magkasama kami hindi ko nagawa pantayan un pagmamahal na meron xia dun sa girl… but still hindi ako bumitaw… nanatili parin ako sa tabi nya… nagbreak up cla nun ex nya…pero nun umuwi ba ng pinas un girl…shit… after my bday.. nkita ko sa cp nila un converswation how sweeet they are…..hindi ko na kniya dhil khit un family nya wla ni isa sa knila nagsabi pumupuinta pala un girl kapag wala ako…skit sobra….. at that time wala ako iba naramdaman kundi un sakit na halos gusto ko na mamamtay…. i leave her…sv ko kakayanin ko kc sobra na… pero hindi ko alm na mali pala un iniwan ko xia…bkit???? dahil ako rin un nahirapan… I’ve continues with my work….every night i always got drunk…. to the point na gusto ko na crain buhay ko… ilang beses ako nagmakaawa sa knya na bumalik na xia skin but still no replies from her… May 28… the girl went again to Italy… then nagparamdam xia skin… gusto daw nya ko makita…eto ako c tanga pumyag… kc mahal ko…mahal na mahal ko parin xia…after non…weve been text call meet na parang kmi pero walang commitment….. masakit,mahirap pero ssa tuwing kasam ko xia masaya ako…i’ve always try her to convinvce na kung pwede magsama na ulet kmi khit cla…..but she always answered me d na pwede maxiado na complikado ang lhat…tama…. alm ko… kc I always opened my FB looking what happens to them… ang skit malaman na lahat ng cnv nya skin naun sa knya ex na nya cnsv laht…. sa tuwing maririnig ko un kananta I wanna grwo old with you…damn…tumutulo lng luha ko… kc hindi na nya kanta un para skin… until now ganun parin ctwasyon namin… until one day i got drunk kc dko na makayannan un skit and accidentally I got one nyt stand to a guy which i dont love… shit.. now i got pregnant… cnv ko sknya…ga;lit na galit xia..naun baliktad na un ctwasyon namin..iyak na iyak xia sa sobrang skin… damn hindi ko alm gagawin ko kc mas maskit skin makita sya nsasaktan…. cnv nya mga plano nya with mer..gusto ko maniwala pero khit maniwala ako imposible na mangyare dhil sa ginwa ko……now still we have a communication pero natatakot ako baka isang araw mawala nlng xia…guys please help me…. alm ko hangng sa huli ako parin un talo kc she always telling me na un ex nya wala gnwa kundi ang mahalin lng xia….. kung dumating un tym na tuluyan na xia mawala skin…hindi ko alm kung kakayanin ko……. ng dahil sa isang pagkakamali….mawawala skin un taong pinakamamahal ko…. kung pwede ko lng ibalik un dati… sana hindi na lng ako umalis ng gma…. cguro masya parin ako kasma xia… i really missed everything…..hindi ko alm kung hanggang kelan….sana sa huli ako parin piliin nya khit alm ko malabo na….

  44. Got the same situation here.. well mas worse pa un situation ko.. he’s newly married but no child..(20 plng xa..early marriage kc nakabuntis, pero nakunan un wife nia)

    he’s my new office mate.. admitted he’s Cute.. just my type.. but nun nalaman ko na married xa.. di na ako nagkaintres sa knya…

    ewan ko ba, how it happen but bigla xa nagchchat sken at nagsasabi na he likes me..and love me.. xempre nun una di ako naniniwala dun..
    eversince nman, di na ako nagpakita ng intres sknya..though i know to myself na like ko xa…

    pero un since tables away lng kme 6x a week, 9hrs a day..magkasama sa opis.. nging habbit na namen ang magkwentuhan at mag chat. hanggang sa yun na..
    naisipan kung sagutin xa kc sobra na ako nakukulitan,, but for 1 week only.. with contract and 3 rules… sempre alam sa work namen na married xa so
    1. one of the rules ang bawal ang ipagkalat sa opis..
    2. pag di na masaya stop na and be friends nalang.. lastly..
    3. No secrets…
    ——Lahat ng yun di natupad… !

    so naging kame pa din.. sabi nia BF and GF kme.. so panu nmn un mangyayari he’s married and i’m single,,so naggawa ako ulit ng contract saying na MU kme
    ( Malandiang Ugnayan) of course with rules ulit.. at ten pa.di ko na ilalahat.
    one of the rules is.. bawal mag isip sa relaxon nmen, at hindi kme…M-U lng,,,

    sabi nia kea nia ako panindagan, at mameet ang parents ko..nagawa nmn nia magpakita at sumama sa bhay nmen.. pero it cause so my trouble..

    alam kc smen na he’s married.. ( some of my relatives kc kawork din namen, and i dont keep secrets sa family ko) they judge me for being a mistress..w/c is i know to myself na gnun na nga..

    so i tried na lumayo sa knya.. sinulatan ko xa..di ko kayang sabihin ng personal ej..sinabi ko lhat na di tama, at mali un ginagawa namen.. pero before mag-end ang day.. i surrendered.. im so weak at narealize ko na di ko xa kaya mawala.. kc namen.. sabi nia magreresign xa.. he got drunk and he show so much pain.. na parang sobrang badtrip xa..di ko un kinaya kea bumalik ako at tinanggap xa ulit..

    umabot kme ng 1 mos. sa loob ng 1 mants im living in guilt. and pain..
    im feeling GUILT kc me nasasaktan akong ibang tao..
    PAIN kc..i know to myself na everytime na uuwe na kme after work at di ko xa ksma sa asawa nia sya possible uuwe.. khit sinasabi nia na hiwalay sila.. alam ko nmn na hindi eh… nakakabasa kc ako ng mga txt messages nila..my bad pakilaman ang CP nia..hehe
    ( separate sila ng bhay kc.. rehas sila na sa mga parents nila nauwe.. nadalaw lng xa minsan sa wifey nia).. another pain is..sinisira ko ang image ko sa company..which is some of our close workmates alam un bowt smen… and im feeling bad about myself for letting me he’s mistress ( ang masakit na katotohanan)

    SO now.. 2 mos. na kme… na ganito..

    i cant ask him na iwan ang asawa nia for me..kc kahit ako sa sarili ko di ko alam kung mhal ko nga ba xa tlga… at kung kaya ko ba xa ipaglaban sa family ko.. saka habang natagal nakikilala ko ugali nia..and unti unti.. nawawala na ung excitement na nararamdaman ko..
    nalalaman ko kc he’s good at lying and doing story to sugar coat the truth about he’s marriege..
    i want him to be honest to me but hindi un ang ginagwa nia..
    lastly meron din kmeng conversation sa chat na.. nasabi nia sken na di nia kaya mawala ang wife nia..na isa lng un patakaran nia sa buhay na pag nawala ang wife nia mapapariwara xa.. di ko alam if totoo un or one of the Stories lng na kinukwento nia..magaling kc xa maggawa ng kwento..

    one thing is sure he’s too immature…at lack of attention..3 years older ako sa knya…

    madalas kme mgaway pag nagtatanung ako bowt sa wife nia..which is nun bago plng kme kusa xa nagkkwento bat ngaun hindi na..

    Bat sa bandang huli naeenjoy pa din namen ang aming moment..
    he never fail to say i love you.. and he never fail to kiss me everytime..
    he always surprise me with sweet little things.. pag di ako nagpaparamdam he do his ways…

    ako kc im totally lost.. i dont know if i really love him and if i can accept him completely.. pero i dont expect anything.. so i try to control my every actions and emotions… para kung piliin man nia wife nia over me., i wont get hurt,, i could let him go..sa ngaun i dont expect anything..
    pero very risky khit matutunan kong magcontrol..and win my game.. nasisira ang name ko…

    di ko magawang makipaghiwalay kc gusto ko munang siguraduhin na tama ang gagawin ko.. at kaya ko na tlaga..last time kc super iyak ako and rehas lng kme nagsuffer….
    kea un mag M-U na kme..but he wants more than he’s not thinking na xa ang commited at xa ang di pede…hay im with a abnormal guy..pero bat ganun cant afford to loose him.

    What to do…?
    what to do…..?
    what to do……,.?

  45. hi. thanks to God nakita ko website na ito.

    ask ko lang if pseudo relationship rin ba yung inlove ka sa bestfriend mong guy pero gay sya e. almost 15 years na kaming friends. faithful and loyal naman sya as a friend pero yun nga lang… close rin sya sa ibang female friends nya na pinag mumulan ng selos ko.

    naging honest na ako sa lahat ng feelings ko sa kanya na may romantic feelings ako sa kanya pero he admitted na d sya straight kaya magulo daw buhay nya…ayaw daw nya ako masama sa magulong life nya. ayaw rin nya ng relationship with a man, takot rin sya.

    ewan ko even if alam ko ng gay sya, i still love him. we are both single and we go out on dates. holding hands lang.. we have not kissed nor done sex….akala ng iba may relasyon kami. di nalang ako nag e-explain na wala naman coz he’s gay. NO… hindi sya open… closet sya. he told me dati pa na he is not a straight guy.

    many times ko na syang gustong talikuran pero di ko kaya. sabi ng close friends ko, i-enjoy ko nalang daw yung friendship- na for a long time ganun na nga lang ginagawa ko. kaya umabot na ng matagal na taon.

    pseudo relationship din ba ang tawag dito?

  46. buhay paba tong thread na to?
    im currently in a pseudo relationship with my colleague. it started out a little over a month. yosi and coffee buddies kami at first. i started to realize that hindi complete yung yosi at kape ko pag di ko sya kasama. so eventually we started this pseudo thing. things are working well a couple of weeks now. and now i can say that im free dahil nagkaron na kami ng closure ng ex ko. and hindi ako nakipagbreak sa ex ko dahil sa kanya(my colleague). i wanted to fix myself and i cant repair it with her(my ex). my ex and i broke up pero she (my ex) insists on giving her another chance. pag ang babae umiyak ang hirap tanggihan. she told me that life is not worth living without me. sinasabi ko naman sa kanya na i really want out dahil nasaktan nya ako ng sobra at mas masakit kung mapipilitan lang ako. she does not want to accept my decision. now im torn because my colleague is starting to feel like she is an option. im the kind of person na ayaw na ayaw makasakit. now i dont know what to do. its been almost a week without sleep but i make sure that i come to work just to be with her. masarap ang pseudo relationship while it lasts. but after sometime you or your pseudo partner will start to be hurt because deep inside, the pseudo relationship is his/her way of wanting to be your girl or guy.

  47. Isa lang po masasabi ko dito sa Pseudo Relationship…. dapat ready xa iaccept whatever the happen sa relationship nila….at first alam nyo wlang kasiguraduhan lahat ang nangyayari sa inyo… kumbaga your making the most out of your relationship…Dapat din alam mo na wala kayong comitment sa isat isa….

  48. hi im in this situation right now ang hirap po pala pero same kami na girl 2 months na kami ganito mahal q xha mahal din nia ko pero hindi kami binigyan pa nia ko ring. lagi kami nagkikita nakakatxt sweet sa isat isa pero ang hirap di nga kami pero nasasaktan ako nang sobra ano ba dapt gawin?

  49. hello everyone, im experiencing that kind of situation now…ang hirap nga gus2 ko n mgstop dko lam kng paano…pls help me po gus2 ko n maging malaya sa katotohanan…tnx!!!

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